Who‘s a Cheater
Divorce is a difficult experience. For couples with children, divorce proves to be more challenging. Some people find it hard to cope with divorce especially if they are the wronged party. On the other hand, some individuals get through with divorce easily by making their children, their goals, and their aspirations as their motivation to survive the difficulty that divorce brings.
There are many challenges along the way as you move on and go through the process of healing your mind and your heart from this experience. However, if you are equipped with the right perspective and the correct emotional tools to cope with divorce, you will be relieving yourself from those buckets of tears and endless sleepless nights.
Be thankful for the good things you have learned and experienced. All relationships, even the darkest and strangest ones have had their fair share of happy moments. It is very healthy if you remind yourselves of these memories and to think that even if your relationship ended in a bad light, you had your share of good life altering experiences as well. You have to be grateful for the good times you have shared with your former significant other. You should accept the fact that what you have now after the divorce are beautiful memories of what your relationship was before. Accept the fact that you are who you are because of your experiences with your former partner.
Forgive yourself and the rest will follow. Cherish the memories and refrain from ranting too much as negative energy will do you no good. It is alright to remember the trying times you have had with your former lover as these things will make you learn and will teach you the ways of life and love but do not linger on them. Bad things are just supposed to be remembered but not cherished. Focus on positive energy and optimism. Everything will soon be alright after the divorce.
Enjoy your new found independence and work towards the success of you and your children’s future. Do not feel miserable over the divorce by thinking how pathetic and alone you are. Accept that solitude is the best way to love and heal. It is in being alone that we can have that much needed me time for moments of pondering and self acceptance. Embrace your new life and think that better things are surely coming your way. Think about how you are going to build a better future for you and your kids.