Who‘s a Cheater
How To Leave Women No Choice But To Feel Sexual Attraction For You
A buddy of mine recently felt despondent over his success with women, which amounts to a big, fat zero.
But here's the weird part…
He's fearless at approaching women. He's a master at engaging them in conversation – most women find him funny and charming. He has no problem getting their numbers, talking to them on the phone, and setting up dates. He's got heaps of girls willing to break their plans to spend time with him.
He cannot, for the life him, become sexually intimate with these women because...
They feel no attraction for him.
Convinced that his looks are holding him back, he's thinking about going under the knife. The procedures he's considering are so disgusting that when he told me about them I could feel my throat moving up-and-down inside my neck skin, struggling to keep my last meal from hurling up.
The reality is… looks aren't his problem. He's not a bad looking guy.
But there is something that's slaughtering his success with women.
However, he's not a strange aberration, an attraction retard we should cull from society and stick on a leper colony.
In fact... most of the male population is plagued with his problem.
The majority of men think attraction has to do with physical preference. “If you aren't a woman's type, you're better off moving on,” they lament.
Some develop their personalities, thinking it's their ticket to stoking women's bellies with an endless supply of attraction. Developing your personality can help... but only if it's coupled with something else... something I'm going to share with you in a minute.
When most men see a woman throwing herself at an average looking male, they think, “He must have a mystical and innate sex appeal.”
Well there isn't anything mystical or inborn about this guy's sex appeal. At a certain point he stumbled onto doing something to women that neither my friend nor 90% of men trudging through the single seen trenches know exists.
I'm talkin' about SEXUAL TENSION
“What exactly is sexual tension?” you might be wondering.
It's a mixture of emotions: think excitement with a dash of fear, titillation with a tinge of uneasiness, and intrigue with a smidgen of worry.
There are two forms of sexual tension: Passive Sexual Tension (PST) and Active Sexual Tension (AST).
Passive Sexual Tension (PST) is when you do or say something that besots a woman into a passive sexual state. Years ago my sister and her friends got to have dinner with Johnny Depp. She was so attracted to Mr. Depp, that she just sat there like dumb dear in headlights, gawking at him in silence and feeling too tongue tied to talk. That's an example of Passive Sexual Tension. I teach tons of ways to trigger Passive Sexual Tension without possessing Johnny Depp's mug.
But I'm not going to talk about them in this letter. Instead I want to discuss Active Sexual Tension (AST).
Active Sexual Tension is similar to its passive brother except that it compels women to actively respond to you.
Let's say, for example, I'm talkin' to a woman and sense that she's into me. At a certain point I might say to her: “You are terribly sarcastic…but that's cool because I'm the exact same way. And if we were to hang out we'd have the best time making fun of the people around us at their expense... but then our Karma would be tainted… so we can never be friends.”
Most likely, this will trigger Active Sexual Tension, compelling her to insist: “Noo! We have to hang out! We've gotta be friends! We are going to have so much fun!”
I'm making her chase me. But not in the way she'd chase down a thief who stole her purse. Instead I'm emotionally driving her to chase me as a Prize having meaning and value to her. That's why I call the act of triggering Active Sexual Tension (AST) in women “Prizing.”
All forms of effective Prizing are structured as a tension loop...
1). Tension is sparked.
2). Tension is increased
3). Tension is released.
4). Tension is spark all over again.
Good movies have this structure...
The movie begins by introducing conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension inside the viewer.
Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax.
The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama.
And, finally, the movie ends by sparking that tension all over again, compelling you to see the sequel.
One of quickest and most effective ways to Prize a woman, triggering heaps of Active Sexual Tension (AST) in her, is to use what I call “Push-Pull.”
Push-Pull is emotionally pushing a woman away from you and then pulling her back in. Each Push triggers tension... and each Pull resolves that tension.
Anonymous commented on 9/7/2010
With all the things going wrong I think God was giving this guy a chance to walk away and stop